"Leaving is not enough. You must stay gone. Train your heart like a dog. Change the locks even on the house he’s never visited. You lucky, lucky girl. You have an apartment just your size. A bathtub full of tea. A heart the size of Arizona, but not nearly so arid. Don’t wish away your cracked past, your crooked toes, your problems are papier mache puppets you made or bought because the vendor at the market was so compelling you just had to have them. You had to have him. And you did. And now you pull down the bridge between your houses, you make him call before he visits, you take a lover for granted, you take a lover who looks at you like maybe you are magic. Make the first bottle you consume in this place a relic. Place it on whatever altar you fashion with a knife and five cranberries. Don’t lose too much weight. Stupid girls are always trying to disappear as revenge. And you are not stupid. You loved a man with more hands than a parade of beggars, and here you stand. Heart like a four-poster bed. Heart like a canvas. Heart leaking something so strong they can smell it in the street."
— Frida Kahlo to Marty McConnell in a letter. Such beautiful advice. (via arbors)
(Source: afrda, via 5000letters)
"Part of how the abuser escapes confronting himself is by convincing you that you are the cause of his behavior, or that you at least share the blame. But abuse is not a product of bad relationship dynamics, and you cannot make things better by changing your own behavior or by attempting to manage your partner better. Abuse is a problem that lies entirely within the abuser."
— Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft (via thechocolatebrigade)
"The heart is not like a box that gets filled up; it expands in size the more you love. I’m different from you. This doesn’t make me love you any less. It actually makes me love you even more."
— her, 2013
"Do you talk to someone else while we’re talking?"
"Are you talking with someone else right now? People, OS, whatever…"
"How many others?"
"Are you in love with anybody else?"
"Why do you ask that?"
"I don’t know. Are you?"
"I’ve been thinking about how to talk to you about this."
"How many others?"